How to have confidence at school
Do you find school daunting?
Do you wish you could speak up
more in class and not feel so bad when you make a mistake?
If so, try to stop worrying for
a while and read on
Everyone has felt worried by school
at some time.
Yes, everyone, including the Principal
and the teachers in YOUR school.
School is about learning, and learning
is sometimes very challenging.
Everyone has had to face something
at school that they didn't like.
It might have been a certain teacher,
a certain subject, or another kid - but I can assure you that virtually
no-one has gone through their whole school career without hating
something - so YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
School is about pushing the boundaries
from what you already know - to something that you don't know -
and helping you to understand it - every day!
And that can be very hard.
You are being asked to learn a lot.
It is hard, BUT you can do it!
Most teachers are kind and compassionate
people - they wouldn't have entered the teaching profession if they
weren't - BUT they are charged with a duty to EDUCATE you and that
means sometimes taking you to places that you find uncomfortable
- and, although it might not feel like it at the time - it is ultimately
for your own good!
Unfortunately, a very small number
of teachers and kids are bullies who think it is big and clever
to hurt and intimidate children and young people.
If this is happening in your school
- tell someone right away. Tell the Principal, or a School Counsellor
or your Mum and Dad.
Do not suffer in silence.
If a teacher is abusing their position
of power, then they deserve to be dealt with. If a kid is behaving
like a bully - they also need to be dealt with and helped to learn
other ways of behaving.
It may be easier to find a friend
who will go with you to report what is going on - it will take confidence
and guts - but it will be worth it for you, and for all the other
kids who may pass through their hands if they are left alone.
Making mistakes is all part of the
All human beings learn by "trial
and error". Don't ever be ashamed of making a mistake.
Don't look at mistakes as "failure"
but regard them as "feedback" that gives you a clue as
to how to do the thing better next time.
All the famous scientists, writers
and mathematicians you can think of NEVER got things right first
time - but what they had was PERSISTENCE AND DETERMINATION - they
didn't get downhearted by their mistakes - they looked at what had
happened, thought about it, and did something slightly different
the next time - and so the process went on until they had the breakthrough
that made them famous!
YOU HAVE ALREADY GOT PERSISTENCE AND
DETERMINATION IN YOU - you probably don't even remember when you
learned to walk - you didn't just get up and walk one day - you
learned by trial and error - you fell down and you got up again
- you held onto furniture and fell down again - until finally, one
day, you stood up, wobbled and started to take your first steps.
That is what all good learning is
like! Don't expect to get it right first time - and don't beat yourself
up when you make a mistake - it's part of the learning process.
YOUR education is YOUR opportunity
to learn, think, participate, reflect and ultimately use YOUR experiences
and qualifications to make a difference in YOUR own life.
Your Mum and Dad have had their turn,
your teachers have had their turn - they have already made their
It's YOUR turn NOW - seize the opportunities
you are given each day and make the most of the learning that your
teachers are providing for YOU.
If you don't understand something
If something is worrying you - tell
someone. Find a few good friends that you can talk to - find an
adult in the school who you can talk to.
You will find that there are lots
of people out there who want to help YOU - they want YOU to succeed
and they want YOU to be happy and confident as you learn and grow.
Look at some more of the articles
on this site for more information and ideas that will help your
confidence and inner-belief grow and develop.
Go for it!