1. Explore what you currently
believe: about work, life, people, yourself
Try a free-writing exercise.
Write each word (work, life, etc.)
at the top of a page (one for each page) and then free associate
for each word.
Write down whatever thoughts might
be conjured up by the word at the top of the page.
Write until each page is full.
2. How much of what you believe
is your own?
Take a look at what your wrote
on each page.
Identify messages that may have
come from parents, friends, family, peers, teachers, etc.
Identify the recurring themes?
Now, highlight the things you
feel truly reflect who you are and what you believe.
3. How much of it is enabling
When you look at the messages
that came from others, are they enabling and empowering?
Or are they limiting?
Now, look at the ones that reflect
your own inner belief system-are those empowering or limiting?
How do they make you feel?
4. What do you want to believe?
Consider your true beliefs.
Do they reflect how you want to
feel about life, work, people, yourself?
Write each idea or thought down
on the left hand side of a page, and on the right hand side,
write how you'd like to feel/think about each instead.
Reprogram yourself by identifying
these limiting thoughts as they pop into your head, and replacing
them with the thoughts and ideas you identified on the right
hand side instead.
If you continue this exercise,
you'll find the old limiting thoughts creeping up less and less,
and the new empowering thoughts will begin to take their place.
5. What messages about life,
people, work, yourself did you get from family as you shaped
Messages from family members will
continue to get repeated by them.
If you have chosen to reprogram
any of their thoughts, values and beliefs, then be prepared
to counter these beliefs whenever a family member articulates
6. What's your response when
you express your belief and someone disagrees?
Consider how you might respond,
should you share your beliefs with others, and find that they
Here's a hint: don't change your
mind. It's ok that someone else believes differently from you-that's
what makes the world go round after all.
Instead, simply state that you
see life/work/people/etc. differently, and then repeat and reconfirm
your belief to yourself.